Friends

In my first blog, I talked about my 'best friend', refering of course to my husband! I got an email from my BEST girlfriend who took me to task for not talking about my 'other' best friend, meaning her! Only a true best friend would have the comfort level to tell someone "hey, what the heck, You didn't mention ME"! hehe....So this blog, as promised, is about HER.
Her name is Melissa. We met quite by happenstance. I had just moved onto the submarine base in the town we live in after my husband had been transferred by the Navy to his new post. So had Melissa. By odd luck, the VERY same DAY! Anyways, a few weeks after moving in and settling in (with a ten day old baby, and my husband being deployed out to sea already I might add!) I took my then almost three year old daughter, and newborn son to the park for some much needed fresh air! While there, I saw this woman with her daughter, sitting on the side. We got to talking (about what I can't recall to this day!) and one thing led to another (as it usually does with us chatty gals!) and before we knew it we had made plans to get our husbands to meet (when they both got home from sea, both being on different submarines!) and to get together ourselves! Sure enough, a few days later, there she was on my doorstep. What a WONDER she was. I was alone with four (count em, FOUR!) kids and here was an ADULT! I probably wore her ears out! hahaha.
As we got to know each other, I realized there are MAJOR differences between us. I have four kids, so by now, I am at the point where I know they are hardy and tough. I don't sterilize everything anymore. In fact, I am at the point where I tell my kids, unless you are bleeding, the 'spurty' kind, I don't want to know about it! Whereas Melissa raises her kids 'by the book'! She worries that they haven't gotten the correct amount of servings of each food group each day. I figure, hell, by the end of the year it's GOT to work out! Melissa has a VERY set nap time. I figure, if my kids are tired, they'll fall asleep, even if that means in a grocery cart at Albertsons! Her kids are on a schedule, while mine are lucky to have the same thing happen twice in one month!
Melissa is well educated. College degree's out her butt! I on the other hand have just started!
I am always on time. Ok, I admit it. I am ALWAYS early. Melissa is always a half hour late!
Melissa does educational things with her kids like makes them playdough and finger paints. I let my kids make creatures out of their mashed potatoes.
So why are Melissa and I friends? We have so many differences. We solve problems from very different angles.
So what makes us tick?
Who knows. All I know is that I love this woman more than any other woman I have ever loved (ok you guys, this is not a porn moment!). She 'gets' me. She is ALWAYS there for me. To babysit. To listen. To laugh. She shows up to every one of my kids birthdays....late, but she's there! She brings the best presents...cause she knows my kids so well! She makes me fudge every Christmas. And cookies...and only a VERY good friend dares to give someone fattening stuff! I know that to her, I am great. I can just be me....no makeup...in my pj's and she thinks no different of me. She would do anything for me.
And I would do anything for her. Cause in my eyes, she is great. She can just be her...no makeup...in her pj's....and I think no different of her.
We often joke that we are both so busy that we have to look at our appointment books and 'make time' for each other. But isn't that what friendship is about? Someone is so important to you that you will use a PEN and INK them into your life? That nothing comes before them on that day?
Yah, Mel and I are vastly different. But then, when you think about it....we are so much alike.
So there Mel...this blog entry is for you. I told you I'd write one!
I love you Girlfriend. Always.
Jaye

Big Day

Well, Here I am...an official 'blogger'. Quite a day for me, as I seem to come from the shallow end of the tech pool! (Just ask my brother the computer Whiz and blogger!). I sit here with so many things going on in my life right now. My husband and dearest friend in the whole world, is out to sea on a Trident Nuclear Submarine. He has been gone for months, and will be home soon, so I am eagerly awaiting his return. I have one last class in college for this semester that begs my attentions, but I am busy redecorating my bedroom as the time for 'homecoming' is drawing near and I always get 'antsy' during this time! (Haven't had sex in three months, what do you expect?!!).
College. Something I never thought I'd do. Having belonged to (former tense) a very fundamental religion for most of my life, I was not encouraged to further my education. Now free of that, I had many choices to make. So I choose a Law career. That was an easy choice to make!My husband has an ex wife that makes life VERY difficult. She wants child support for her child, but no father. So, we have been in and out of court every few months for almost seven years now. In that time, I have seen the need for change in Family Law in not only my state, but every state. So, I have taken upon myself to obtain a degree in Legal Sciences, with the long term goal of becoming an Attorney and then involved in politics. Considering that I am Canadian born and bred, that has to say something about my comittment to the U.S.
I met my husband online...so I have THAT perspective in life as well.
I have teens and preschoolers in my home. A feat that boggles the mind some days, and is so easy on others! I am a biological mother as well as a step mother...both of which I hope to do well, but am realizing that I have much to learn about.
Anyways...on this my first day out, I will keep it short ( a novelty for me I assure you!) and so I hope to keep everyone mesmerized by my words. If not, oh well, find another blog to read! hahahha..
To all of you, family, friends and other assorted loved ones,
Let me into your minds and I will let you into my world.
Hugs
Jaye